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Sing in your heart to the Lord



















   We are responsible for what we do with the blessings God gives us. We must give an account of what we do with the light God gives us. This applies to our words as well, and whether they have their source in God and the leading of the Holy Spirit, or whether they have their source in our carnal, sinful nature, and the leading of the enemy.




   None of us deserve the blessings God gives us. All of us deserve the judgment and punishment of God for our sins. “There is none righteous, no, not one.” (Rom. 3:10) “All of our righteousness is like filthy rags.” (Isa. 64:6) Talking is a responsibility and a blessing. None of us deserve to talk. All of God's blessings are because of His grace and are designed to lead us to repentance. “Or do you despise the riches of His goodness, forbearance, and longsuffering, not knowing that the goodness of God leads you to repentance?” (Rom. 2:4) “Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and comes down from the Father of lights.” (James 1:17)




The first rule is to be slow to speak, so that you can think before you speak to determine if it will be edifying or not to the listener. “So then, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, and slow to anger, for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God.” (James 1:19)




The second rule is to say as little as possible. “With a lot of talking, there is a lot of sin.” (Prov. 10:19)



The third rule is to only say what will be a benefit to others, not a benefit to ourself. ”Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice.” (Eph. 4:29-31)



The fourth rule is that arguing or striving is always wrong, and is always from the enemy. “But avoid foolish and ignorant disputes, knowing that they generate strife. And a servant of the Lord must not quarrel but be gentle to all, able to teach, patient, in humility correcting those who are in opposition, if God perhaps will grant them repentance, so that they may know the truth.” (2 Tim. 2:23-25)




   “My brethren, let not many of you become teachers, knowing that we shall receive a stricter judgment. For we all stumble in many things. If anyone does not stumble in word, he is a perfect man, able also to bridle the whole body. Indeed, we put bits in horse’s mouths that they may obey us, and we turn their whole body. Look also at ships: although they are so large and are driven by fierce winds, they are turned by a very small rudder wherever the pilot desires. Even so the tongue is a little member and boasts of great things.




   See how great a forest a little fire kindles! And the tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity. The tongue is so set among our members that it defiles the whole body, and sets on fire the course of nature; and it is set on fire by hell. For every kind of beast and bird, or reptile and creature of the sea, is tamed and has been tamed by mankind. But no man can tame the tongue. It is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison.” (James 3:1-8)




   “But I say to you that for every idle word men may speak, they will give account of it in the Day of Judgment. For by your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned.” (Matt. 12:36-37)




   “Let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.” (1 Pet. 3:4)




   “And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you. Therefore be imitators of God as dear children. And walk in love, as Christ also has loved us and given Himself for us, an offering and a sacrifice to God for a sweet-smelling aroma.” (Eph. 4:32-5:2)


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"Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you. Therefore be imitators of God, as beloved children. And walk in love, as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us, a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God."

- Eph. 4:32 & 5:1-2

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